Ugh.
Sometimes I just don't know what to do. If I could step back and say to her, " That's ok...you keep your money. You don't have to pay for the wedding anymore. Thank you for the offer. " I would TOTALLY do that just so I/Andrea do not have to hear about "problems" anymore. If I want to have cheddar whipped mashed potatoes at my wedding, for f**k's sake, I'm having cheddar whipped potatoes. She has an awful way of turning things into HUGE ordeals and I start stressing about it. For example:
I sent out invitations to make cakes. They went to people who I really care about and its just a really neat idea. Well, I sent one to my Aunt Diane. Kathie was over doing Yoga at Aunt Di's and one thing lead to another and they were talking about the cakes. Aunt Di had just said casually, " I am not going to be creative with it....its not going to be fancy. " Which, coming from Aunt Di, I expect. She once tried to make a chocolate cake and used Miracle Whip....I wish I was kidding. But anyhoodle, so Kathie tells Andrea later that day, " Diane is just very upset that she has to make a cake. She can't handle the pressure and doesn't want to make one. Tianna should have ran things by me first before she sent out invitations. She should have told people that she was doing this. " So of course, I freak out. I don't want Aunt Di (or anyone) to feel pressured to do this. Why would I want that? I called and left a message for Aunt Di saying, "you don't have to make one if you don't want to, don't worry about it, I'm sorry to have caused so much pressure. Kathie was talking with Andrea today about it and it didn't sound like you wanted to do one..." I was basically apologizing for asking her. About 4 hours later I get an email saying something like, " What a minute, what did Kathie tell you? I am fine with making a cake...its just not going to be creative. What flavor do you and Aaron like? "
My jaw drops. So it wasn't even like that, eh? This is definitely not the first time this sort of situation has come up where Kathie makes out the other person to be bad, when really, she is the manipulative one. Don't get me wrong, I love Kathie to death and would do anything for her . . . but I just can't trust her not to talk badly about me behind my back (or sometimes just whispering to others AS I'm talking).
It is just so incredibly frustrating to be with two totally different types of adults. Take my parents, for instance. I don't think I heard bad things about anyone come out of my parents mouth once. That's just not what they did. But with Kathie, she will bad talk ANYONE in front of ANYONE. Where is the respect? How am I suppose to respect you when you are talking badly to me about MY sister? Some of the things she's said made me embarrassed to be related to her. (that's how awful they were).
Sigh. I need to win the lottery of small fortunes by May 22nd. I could hook on the corner!! Am I worth $5,000? Probably not.
Oh, and sorry for semi saying the "F" word. I hate that word. Love it when others use it, but it sounds foreign coming out of my mouth.
